Sunday, February 10, 2013

A little introduction....

Hello & Welcome to my blog!

This blog is something i'm beginning as I begin a new chapter in my life. The chapter i'm beginning is one of health. :) I am sitting up in a hotel bed right now, it is day 5 after I've had a surgery which I have waited a few years for.  It is not a "serious illness" to many, but it was a life changing illness to me. Endometriosis has taken over my body since puberty and i'm finally on the way to beating it I think! I will cover my endo journey in another section of the blog, but I wanted to explain the main reason to the start of this blog. I want a fresh start where I start to do what I talk about doing, say what I want to say and achieve the things I want to achieve. It's quite simple really. It's a peek into the life of a wife and Mummy of 4 little ones (They are all 4yrs and under...in fact I had them all within 30months!!) and all the excitement that goes along with it. I often have an opinion on things that happen every day and I want to start sharing those opinions and maybe making a difference to at least one or two other women.

Other than being a wife and mummy, I am a photographer (mostly lifestyle and natural light), crafty crafter, I love to sew, an advice giver and I love to organize. I'm not saying i'm 100% fabulous at all these things, but I 100% enjoy doing them all.

So here goes nothing.

A little back story to myself for anyone who likes a little history behind who they are reading about.

I was born in London, but from the age of 2, grew up in a little village named Biddenden, in the South East of England. It is just South of London. About 45 minutes away to be exact.

I had a pretty privileged childhood where I got to experience a lot of fun things, go visit a bunch of awesome places and was surrounded by people who helped shape me as a person. My family had lots of friends growing up, but all different types of friends, and as a result, I got to know people of all different backgrounds and lifestyles. We visited places that we took interest in, and flew/ferried our way to different countries too. It's safe to say my parents liked to expose us to knowledge. In no way am I claiming to be a super intelligent/boffin, but I AM claiming to have pretty AWESOME parents who tried to ensure we had a good start to life.

I attended an all girls boarding school. It was an experience, let's say. I have some hilarious memories from there, some great friends and at the end of the day it led me to where I am now....if it was somewhat inadvertently. As with most private schools, academic was the priority....the one problem for me....I wasn't (and still am not!) the most academic. I'm still useless with grammar, AWFUL at maths, do not understand science and well...history...my favourite thing about that was flirting with the teacher! hahaha! (another perk of an all girls school!)

The other thing I learned at school....girls can be mean. A lot. The irony now is that a lot of the girls who were "mean" sort of amounted to being...well....the same as they always were. They were trying to keep up with the Jones's (or some other double barreled name) and most likely still are. I'm fairly certain my dream was always to marry the love of my life, and have a happy, successful family. By happy and successful, I mean, just that. Happy and Successful...for themselves. Not for anyone else. I was made fun of for being "me", and I see that teens still are. I'll never understand it. If it doesn't directly effect you, then, why on earth do you care?? I wasn't part of the rich gang, I didn't carry the right bag, hang the right designer tear out poster on my wall, have a whole gaggle of friends called Freddy, Fergus, Angus, I vacationed in Torrevieja, not St Tropez, bought my luggage from Matalan, not LV etc., but you know what...I didn't care. I didn't care until THEY cared. I was quite happy being me, and not until I overheard the whispers.

This blog is to help clear up a few things in my head. As much as I wish those years hadn't been so hard, and those girls hadn't cornered me to say things simply to humiliate me, or make me feel small, I am grateful for them, as they built me. I am not angry with those girls, and in fact,  it is so fun to me to see fellow classmates succeed and become women of worth. Maybe they had no idea how their words broke my spirit at the time. I would sometimes lie to avoid embarrassment, or to just somehow skip over a conversation, and that in turn would lead me to disliking myself.

I wish that girls knew these things now, and knew how hard our lives can get in a few years, so making this time in our lives a little kinder, having a little more empathy, might give them a little less to regret in the future. I wish that girls could take just one moment a day to think of something nice/genuine to say to one unsuspecting person and see how this built them up. It not only builds up the recipient, but pointing out sweet things about others helps you maybe see some sweet things about yourself that you didn't realise.

I'm not an ignorant person, and am fully aware that we all have different opinions and ideals, but i'm not ashamed to say that I believe we all (and our opinions) can live peacefully together. As long as the choices you make do not physically affect me or my family, then I have absolutely no right to oppose how you choose to live your life, and vice versa. Freedom of speech I think all too often gets confused with freedom to speak....as in, people don't know when to just hush. I think we all have great worth in who we are, and it may or may not be clear to everyone what our individual worth is, but irregardless of that, the worth is there. I saw a quote the other day which I thought was just perfect and wanted to share as it seemed so perfect for my first post:

(source unknown)
Too often I see people judging and putting their opinions out where really they are not welcome. It's seen in schools so much now, and even back when I was there. Just because someone is different, or the same things don't make them happy, doesn't mean their view is of less value.
This post was just meant to just start my blog off in the way I wanted...to basically say, this blog is MY opinion, and things I love, if you agree, then read on, if not, that's ok too! I have always been a little too afraid to say my own opinion before, but this blog is the start. I don't mean pushy, I just mean i'll be sharing what makes me happy and what I think might give others happiness too.  (wow...I sound like a hippy!)
Ok...serious blog post over, and now moving onto more normal regular blogging, but try to remember this idiom...
 Live and Let Live.

1 comment:

  1. Glad to keep up with your gang! Hope you are doing well after surgery!

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